These days, weddings seem to be a breeding ground for criticism. Almost everyone has opinions about where to choose the Utah reception venue, how much to spend, what the appropriate number of guests is, and even what type of food to serve. Most of these people mean well, although there are some who might be trying to put a damper on your big day. Either way, the end result is that brides often get overwhelmed trying to please everyone—and often at the expense of your own wishes.
Fortunately, we can all improve the way we approach a wedding with a few basic rules of etiquette. This is true for the happy couple as well as the people sharing their big day.
Etiquette Tips for Brides and Grooms
- Send Invitations Out Early: No, you don’t have to send a save the date card and a wedding invitation, but it is a good idea to give plenty of advance warning for your big day. If it’s just a small, intimate affair, four weeks is standard. If there is travel or extensive planning involved, try sending out the invitations four to eight weeks early. Even though your wedding is important, not everyone will be able to adjust their schedules at the last minute to accommodate it.
- Don’t Ask for Money: It’s no secret that most couples would rather receive gift cards, checks, or cash gifts in place of the more standard toasters and towels. However, it’s not your place to dictate what people give you (with the possible exception of donations to a favorite charity in lieu of gifts). Otherwise, accept all your presents graciously and with thank you cards.
- Try Not to Micromanage: Yes, it’s your big day, and you might have every last detail planned, from the first dance and the cake cutting to tossing the bouquet. Unfortunately, whenever you have a large gathering of people, the unexpected can (and usually does) occur. Try to be flexible when it comes to the people you love getting in the way of your timeline.
Etiquette Tips for Wedding Guests
- Be Sure to RSVP: It used to be that everyone RSVP’d to events—to do otherwise was unthinkable. In our digital age, this common courtesy is often ignored. Be sure and let the bride and groom know your plans—they can’t properly set up their wedding if you and your family are an unknown.
- Remember It’s Not Your Wedding: Maybe the bride spent way too much on her wedding gown. Perhaps you’re allergic to the shellfish main dish or have a gluten allergy that prevents you from eating the cake. You might even know of a great photographer who can shoot her wedding for free. Try your best to keep these things to yourself. If the happy couple wants your opinion, they will ask for it.
- Be Happy: The best thing you can bring to the wedding is joy and love for the new couple. The worst weddings in the world can be saved by a family that wishes the newlyweds nothing but happiness, and the most elaborate events can be ruined if the guests make their unhappiness show. Be positive, be happy, and do your best to have a good time.
A wedding is almost always stressful to plan, but it doesn’t have to be. With the right Utah wedding venue and some courtesy from everyone involved, you can enjoy the entire process—and begin your married life with all the love and joy you deserve!