Brides are notoriously bad at micromanagement. High stress over the details of the wedding, fiancés who might not get things done as quickly as they like, family members trying to take over projects, and, yes, even a touch of Bridezilla syndrome can all combine to make wedding planning a bit of a struggle. It’s no wonder that many brides take hold of the reins and refuse to let go—even for small projects that could just as easily be done by someone else.
No one is to blame when this happens. With brides feeling pressured to plan the perfect day—and most of them on a budget while they do it—they bear the brunt of the blame when things go wrong.
However, some brides actually enjoy the task of micromanaging others. It is time consuming, exhausting, and often frustrating to coordinate people who may or may not be qualified to lend a hand. And as many brides end up doing the work themselves anyway, it might seem like even asking for help is an extra step you don’t need.
If you’re in the thick of wedding planning and are afraid you’re doing too much and nitpicking too many details, you may need to take a step away. Here’s how.
Ask what people would prefer to do. Instead of assigning tasks (making centerpieces, arranging the honeymoon, choosing a wedding band), ask your helpers what they would like to contribute. By assigning them tasks they enjoy and are qualified to take on, it is easier to relax and feel assured that they can competently complete each one.
Outline your worries. By writing down your biggest fears and worst-case scenarios in giving up part of the wedding plans, it is often easier to let them go. Don’t go so far as to make arrangements behind someone’s back (this lack of trust can damage relationships), but know when and where an emergency might be averted later on.
Set a deadline—then step away. The urge to check in on your helpers is probably a strong one, especially as the wedding date draws nearer. Instead of calling at random times to see how things progress, set a time when you can expect things to be done. If things aren’t to your satisfaction by that time, you can reassess whether or not you need to do the work yourself.
Don’t expect perfection. No one is perfect, and no one will be able to share your exact vision for the wedding. Be willing to accept something a little bit less than perfection, and you might be surprised at how well people will surprise you with their abilities.
Put your projects in capable hands. If you’re hesitant to hand over certain tasks because of their importance, make sure you solicit the help or hire the best possible candidate for the job. A Utah reception venue with long experience in planning weddings is a great first step. Not only can many of your smaller decorating and catering plans be put in capable hands, but you can free your helpers—and yourself—up to attend to all the pressing wedding planning details that will arise.
Being a micromanager can quickly dampen your joy in planning a wedding. Let go where you can, trust in your helpers, and be prepared to enjoy the outcome no matter what. Weddings are just as much about the people you love as they are about making everything perfect.